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Quit Smoking by Helping Others
By Fred H. Kelley
"Do as I say, not as I do." How many times have you heard that? How many times have you said that?
Everyone gives advice to others. It's easy to give advice, whether people ask for it or not. Everyone has an opinion and their own ideas about how something should be done. I bet you've heard it from lots of people: "Quitting smoking is easy. Just quit," or something equally as ineffective.
Advice from non-smokers on how to quit will probably not help you. In fact, you may find that advice from anyone, including other smokers who have quit successfully, doesn't help you. If you just aren't motivated by advice from others, try *helping * others, instead.
It may sound backwards, but how many times have you been able to see the "true" situation and solution in someone else's life, while they just could not see it? Perhaps that's why giving other people advice is so easy. As a disinterested third party, you can evaluate a situation or problem from a logical, unemotional (yes, I'm a man) and detached perspective. It's easy to see how to get out of the maze, when you're looking at the maze from the outside. Ever watch a rat trying to get out of a laboratory maze? You immediately see the way, but the rat must search blindly, because he can only see the walls around him.
The same can be true when you begin to help others quit smoking. By evaluating someone else's smoking, and their quest to quit, you can quickly see solutions to the other person's problem.
Each issue of this ezine contains emails from other smokers who are searching for the answers to their quitting problems. I bet you can immediately see how the person could deal with their particular problem. I encourage you to email your thoughts and solutions to the other Quit Smoking Report readers. In this process of offering advice, you're sure to develop solutions for yourself as well. Plus, you can develop a dialog with other smokers around the world who are more than willing to offer help to you. Don't be afraid to ask for solutions to your particular quitting problem.
Also, today, I'd like to announce the QuitSmoking.com Bulletin Board System (BBS). We've created an online, web-based forum where you can post messages, read messages and respond to messages. The site is, of course, dedicated to sharing quit smoking information, pleas for help, and general encouragement.
We'll be testing the system this week and encourage you to visit today.
Just go to: http://www.quitsmoking.com/bbs.htm
Also, consider searching for groups in your area that get together to support each other. Check with your local hospital, American Cancer Society (http://www.cancer.org) or American Lung Association (http://www.lungusa.org) (if you live in the US) for support groups or other activities that would enable you to meet and talk with other smokers.
While this solution or method for quitting may not be for everyone, it can help you if you work at it. Plus, you can help many other smokers along the way. Share your knowledge and wisdom and the world will share with you.
** Article © Copyright Fred Kelley of QuitSmoking.com. Visit the web site at http://www.quitsmoking.com
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